|I. Key Findings
The good news is that most teens (78%) turn to their parents in times
- Boys are more likely than girls to say they turn to their parents
for advice (84% vs. 72%).
- Reliance on parental advice increases from 67% to 90% between the
ages of 12 and 13, but then declines over the next two years, with 65%
of 15 year olds turning to their parents for guidance (65%).
Another positive finding is that teens and their parents appear to be
talking and spending time together. They report spending an average of about
80 minutes per day talking to one another and eating an average of eight
meals a week together.
Although most families break bread together regularly, there are still
a large number who cannot find the time for family meals. One in four parents
(24%) and 17% of teens report eating no more than four meals a week together
as a family.
- Not surprisingly, younger teens report spending more time with parents
than their older counterparts (89 minutes a day for 12 yr. olds vs.
69 minutes for 15 yr. olds). However, parents say they average over
80 minutes a day with all age groups.
- Children of single parents spend less time talking to their parents
than those with two adults at home (on average 67 minutes vs. 81 minutes
- Mothers spend significantly more time with their teens than fathers
(on average 93 minutes vs. 78 minutes per day).
- Disturbingly, 10% of parents report that they eat just one meal a
week, or never eat, with their teens.
"Not having enough time together" with their parents is the top concern
among teenagers today. Teens are three times more likely than their parents
to say that "not having enough time together" is their biggest issue of
concern (21%). Family time is tied with education for first place on the
teens’ list of concerns.
- Teens of all ages are concerned by the lack of quality time with their
Conversely, parents are far more concerned by outside threats such as
drugs and alcohol (24%) than they are about family time. Quality time comes
in as the fourth most important priority at 8%.
A substantial percentage of parents and teenagers report that teens spend
more of their free time watching television and using computers than they
do interacting with their parents. Over one-third of all parents (36%) report
that their teens spend the majority of their free time in front of a computer
or television screen. Nearly three in ten teens (29%) agree.
- Parents underestimate the time their teens spend in front of the television.
Only 12% of parents believe their children watch TV during the majority
of their free time, while 20% of teens confess to being couch potatoes.
Parents often say that they frequently monitor their teen’s time in front
of the TV and on the Internet, but their children don’t agree. While 85%
of parents say they frequently monitor what their kids watch on TV (42%
"all the time," 43% "often"), 61% of children say they are watching TV without
any parental supervision (22% "all the time," 39% "often").
- Interestingly, younger teens are more likely to watch television unsupervised
than their older counterparts (66%, 12 yr. olds vs. 49%, 15 yr. olds).
Parents are even more naďve when it comes to Internet exposure. Nearly
three-quarters of parents (71%) assert that they frequently monitor their
child’s use of the Web. However, 45% of teens say they surf the Web "all
the time/often" without a watchful parental eye.
Many parents feel the time they spend with their teens is inadequate.
Only 30% of parents say that they spend "more than enough time with their
kids." Another 42% are looking for more quality time with their teens (31%
"have some time, but need more," 12% "do not have nearly enough time").
- Fathers have a bigger disconnect with their teenagers than mothers.
Nearly half of all dads (47%) are looking to spend more time with their
teens, compared to 38% of mothers who say they need more time.
- Single parents (23%) are the most likely to maintain that they "do
not have nearly enough time" available to spend with their teens.
Both teenagers (34%) and parents (34%) blame parental work obligations
as the primary reason why families are not spending more time together.
- Four in ten fathers (43%) blame work for coming between them and their
kids. Additionally, younger parents (37%, 25-44) are more likely than
older parents (26%, 45+) to feel that their career keeps them from spending
time with their teenagers.
- Older teens (37%, 14-15) are somewhat more likely than 12 and 13 year
olds (30%) to blame their parent’s work schedule for detracting from
- "Pressed parents," who are looking to spend more time with their teens
(42% of parents overall), suggest that the number one barrier to being
together is work (42%). Additionally, these parents face the problem
of not being in the same place as their teens at the same time (19%),
and complain about a general lack of desire on the part of the kids
Hectic work schedules are not the only barrier families face when trying
to spend time together; some teenagers say they would rather spend time
with their friends than with their families. Teens are twice as likely to
say prefer to spend time with their friends than parents believe (25% vs.
- Teenage boys are significantly more likely than girls to prefer spending
time with friends instead of family (31% vs. 19%).
The influence of friends is a recurring theme. Teens are almost two-and-a-half
times more likely than their parents to state that friends are a critical
influence on their values (26% vs. 11%). And over half of all teens (51%)
turn to their friends as a source of advice on life issues.
- The impact peers have on forming values increases steadily as teens
get older. Just 15% of 12 year olds report that friends are the biggest
influence on their values, while 37% of 15 year olds say the same. Likewise,
teens become more dependent on their friend’s advice as they get older.
Just 37% of 12 year olds cite friends as a source of advice compared
to 67% of 15 year olds.
- Two in five teens who feel their parents do not have enough time to
spend with them (40%) turn to friends for guidance on values.
- Children of single parents are more likely than those from a two parent
home to rely on their friends for advice (59% vs. 49%), as well as information
concerning values (38% vs. 24%).
When families do spend time together, the communication is not getting
through. For instance, parents may think that they talk to their children
about values and beliefs on a frequent basis (64%), but teens are only hearing
it 41% of the time!
- Parents of 14 year olds reportedly are the most likely to frequently
talk to their teens about values and beliefs (68%). However, only 34%
of this age group agrees that they are having conversations about values
on a frequent basis.
- Teenage girls (44%) are more likely to speak with their parents frequently
about values than boys of the same age (38%).
Similarly, 62% of parents "strongly agree" that they share the same basic
values as their teens. However, only 46% of teens suggest that this is true.
- Three-quarters of all mothers (75%) "strongly agree" that they share
the same values with their teens, compared to just 48% of fathers.
- Over half of all teenage girls (52%) "strongly agree" that they share
the same values with their parents. Just 40% of teen boys feel the same.
The same disconnect between parental and teenage perception can be seen
on important issues like sex, dating, drugs and alcohol, and future plans.
- For example, according to 43% of parents, sex is a frequent topic
of conversation in their homes. However, just 26% of teens suggest their
parents speak to them about sex with any regularity. Likewise, while
34% of parents suggest they discuss dating frequently, only one-quarter
of teens (25%) say the same.
- Interestingly, as teens get older, and are more likely to be sexually
active, their parents talk to them less about sex. Only 22% of 12
year olds report that their parents “rarely/never” speak to them
about the topic, while 58% of 15 year olds do not speak to their
parents about sex.
- Similarly, parents are more likely to report that they speak to
their teens frequently about drugs and alcohol than teens state
(51% vs. 35%).
- Again, the older a teen becomes the less likely it is that parents
will talk to them about the topic. Just 30% of 14 and 15 year olds
report that their parents speak to them frequently about drugs and
alcohol. In comparison, 41% of 12 and 13 year olds have parents
who talk to them regularly on the topic.
Global Strategy Group (GSG) conducted a total of 400 telephone interviews
nationwide among children between the ages of 12 and 15 (200 interviews)
and parents of children between the ages of 12 and 15 (200 interviews),
using experienced research interviewers.
- Parental consent was obtained for the 200 minors who participated
in the research.
The length of the questionnaire was approximately eight minutes and included
a total of 21 questions.
Respondents were called from a nationwide sample of self-reported households
with children 11 to 15 currently living at home.
- The sample was purchased strictly for the use of this study, and the
interviews were stratified by gender and age group.
The interviews were conducted between April 11 and April 20, 2000.
The survey has an overall margin of error of ±4.9% at the 95% confidence
- The margin of error is ±6.9% among the 200 children interviews as
well as the 200 parent interviews.